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Sunday, October 28, 2007

The Wisest Woman there ever Was?















(Couple shown are models)






The husband of the above-mentioned Wise Woman told this story to me, and it left a lasting impression on me for both its message and the pride with which it was told. In more or less his own words:

“ I married my high school sweetheart when I was 19. She was the only girl with whom I had ever had sex, so I was quite inexperienced, and very curious about other women. However, I did take the marriage seriously and we got on with raising a family.

“I worked as a waiter in the hotel industry. I worked partly during the day as well at night, and I was meeting a lot of unattached women who were at play. Usually after work in the evening I went along with the guys for a drink.

“One night I met this girl from Boston who was apparently having a good time and very much in the mood. She was too much of a temptation, so she and I went round the back of the building and got it on, hot and heavy. I felt so guilty, but I would be lying if I said that I didn’t enjoy it. I never saw her again.

“That night when I went home I worried that my wife would detect something, but she was asleep as usual, and after washing I went to bed. After my morning shift I had lunch at home as though nothing at all had happened. I thought I was in the clear. I went into the bedroom to change my clothes and my wife came in after me, pulled the curtains and started getting undressed as well.

“Come lie down on the bed, Honey, rest a while. So I did as I was told. We made love with a passion that had been missing since the early years, and afterward, while she lay in my arms, she whispered these most terrifying words in my ear.

“Honey, I believe that last night you had sex with another woman. I could smell her perfume on you, also you had the smell of a woman’s special scent when you came to bed. You don’t have to say anything. I don’t need to hear you deny it to save my feelings. A woman just knows. The thing is that if you feel you have to go outside our marriage to get sex, I feel that’s my fault. I am obviously not taking proper care of you. Now, we can’t have you running around to other women for something that’s my responsibility, so I will make sure that you get all the sex you want, right here at home. Anytime of day or night, I’m here for you.”

“That was about 1pm. At five o’clock, just before I went to work she was ready, and insistent again. After work I went straight home as I was dead tired. She was waiting up for me. We had a drink, she was very soft and cuddly, and as we slipped into bed she said she was there for me if I wanted. Well, I didn’t want! She let me go to sleep in her embrace.

“ After that, she combined loving attention and kindness on me, together with genuine warmth and the care of a woman who was concerned about holding her family together. She wasn’t so forceful or aggressive about the sex thing as to disgust me, but I must admit that there came a time when I would not have minded if I never had sex ever again. She wasn’t careless as to my needs. Got a fantasy, big boy? Want to try something new? I’m with you baby, all the way.

“I ‘m telling you that not only do I love my wife, and appreciate her, but I also respect her intelligence, especially in the way that she handled a difficult situation. I can’t think of any other woman who would have handled the situation so well. In fact, in most cases an indiscretion like mine might have led to the break-up of the marriage. “

I was talking to a mutual friend and the name of our hero came up. My friend had been told the same story. In fact, the couple recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary, and the man had actually told the story to the astonished reporter who asked, “To what do you owe the longevity of your marriage?”

I find this an inspiring tale in an era when marriages collapse with such monotonous regularity, some being so brief that the couple fight over custody of the wedding cake.

The Wisest Woman who ever there Was? You bet!






Copyright © 2007 Eugene Carmichael

Sunday, October 21, 2007

What do People Want?












This is a most intriguing question. There was a time when the answer would have been relatively simple, but in this, the age of the Internet, things have become quite a bit complicated.

It began with the “Personals” columns. People who simply could not find a friend any other way advertised that they would like to meet someone of similar interests in the hope of forming a friendship and some company. These were all very above-board, and they continue in this vein. No doubt that many people have found company and friendship, and even more. Trying to meet other people, short of joining all sorts of clubs, through newspaper and Internet dating clubs is a fairly efficient way to go.

No problems in this regards, except one still has to be careful when meeting the person behind the other ad.

What is taking my attention are those other and alternative lifestyles that get advertised along with the standards. It is here where I sit up and take notice of the desires of some very brave folk. Here are some examples:

- There are girls who are looking for female lovers, and boys who are looking for male lovers. Nothing especially noteworthy there.
- A married couple, ages 30 and 34, are looking for a bisexual woman to join them in their bed;
- A man, aged 40 years, is seeking a couple of ladies between the ages of 35 to 40, to join him in his bed. (Does he realize how much work that is?)
- A couple, ages 39 and 40 are looking for another couple about the same ages to love each other, sporadically;
- A 28 year-old female is looking for a married couple into whose home she seeks to move into for bisexual relations. (How long do we think it will take her to force the wife out?)
- A very common quest is for married couples seeking other married couples to share their sexual lives with. It seems to me that they should join one of the many Swinging Clubs that are popping up. Perhaps this is how so many clubs get started. Men, know one thing: if you can somehow find a way to put the suggestion to your wife that you and she should become swingers, if she agrees it will not be for your sake.
- The one that takes the prize is the advertisement from a middle age lady who is seeking the company of a small group of male friends, at least three at a time. She guarantees a good time will be had by all, and as well she considers that she pays well. (Crumbs! I wonder how large her mailbag is?).

So, what a brave new world it is in which we live. What will life be like 100 years from now?


Copyright © 2007 Eugene Carmichael

Sunday, October 14, 2007

Prostitutes are People Too!







I want to tell this story because it involves people who are, for the most part invisible. They stand around posing and encouraging men to buy their wares, but in doing so they are an embarrassment to the average person, men included.

So, we turn our heads away, or otherwise avert our eyes. But these are people who mostly find themselves in dire straits and they do what they do to survive. They find nothing whatsoever enjoyable about their profession, and they absolutely despise the men who use them, while at the same time they are grateful for the support.

My experience with prostitutes is most unusual, and is a story, I think, well worth telling because it does provide a certain insight that is rare.

While away from home I began taking my evening meals at a pub that was located in a certain commercial centre. To get there I passed through a roundabout that was used by a group of ladies of the night. From where they stood they could see where I parked my car.

The first couple of nights of my passing brought much friendly greetings, but on the third night, just as I was finishing my meal, another one of the regulars came in and said that my friends were waiting for me at the car, and they seemed to be upset. Of course I was mystified, and on investigating we found that most of the girls had been battered and bloodied. Apparently a group of men had posed as customers and when they had gone off in the bush they beat and robbed the girls.

Now they were calling on the one person who they thought would be helpful. “Please mister, all we want to do is go home. Please, can you drive us home?” A voice in my head said you need to walk away from this, but I agreed to help as it seemed to be the decent thing to do.

By this time a small crowd had gathered and some of the women patrons took the girls who were in the worst way to the washroom and tidied them up. One of the girls had suffered a direct blow to the eye that was swollen into a ball, and others were bleeding from swollen and cut lips.

They all piled into my seven-seater and away we went. It was while I was underway that it occurred to me that here I was with a car full of prostitutes. What policeman would believe that I was not their pimp. This might have truly been an example of “no good deed going unpunished.”

We arrived at their destination without incident and they all said thank you and retreated into an apartment building, except my front seat passenger. She said her name was Bunny, and she had not been beaten. I suppose she concluded that so it shouldn’t be a complete loss she would try to drum up some business with me.

I told her, Thanks, but no thanks! However, she pressed me. “Why you don’t stop for us? Why you don’t give us some business, you nice man, we like to do business with you!”

I replied that it was just not my thing. “Oh! You gay man?” “No, I’m not gay.” I explained that I was distressed to see the girls who had made it all the way to Spain being engaged in the same activity that so many left behind in their own country. “You have come here for a better life and you are here on the street selling your humanity in this way, and it really does get to me. Under no circumstances could I enjoy a sexual encounter with someone who does that sort of thing against their will.”

“But why should you care? You are not responsible for me. My problems are my own!”

“ I care because you are a human being with the right to dignity and self esteem. I care because prostitutes are women and people too, and I have my own conscience to contend with. I just could not bring myself to take advantage of you in that way. I have too much respect for you.”

Bunny began to cry and it grew into a deep, agony filled, free-flow, rocking backwards and forwards wail. In between her sobs she blurted that I was the very first person in her entire life who saw her as a human being, and that included her own family who sent her out on to the streets when she was a mere twelve years old to bring some money home.

Copyright © 2007 Eugene Carmichael

Friday, October 5, 2007

e-commerce, You & Me







Lately, I have been investigating the wonderful world of e-commerce. I was compelled into doing so because I came across an offer from a young man called Jon Davies who offered me the opportunity of giving away his ebook, "Income4Beginners," with the promise that I might make $40 each time I did. Jon has a fully automated website up in which he discusses the merits of e-commerce in a free ebook, and he also promotes a product package, the fundamentals of what you need to know to pursue an on-line income, which is, of course, the Holy Grail. Wouldn't we all like to earn money while we sleep?


It's the product package that is for sale for $40.00 that could make me that afore-mentioned income, just for giving away the free ebook to anyone who will accept it. If the person to whom I give the ebook simply reads it and does not go on to buy the product package, then that's the end of it. However, the product package is good solid stuff, as I can testify to that as I read through it. I am finding it quite helpful.




The part that is difficult to believe is that Jon offers to replace his purchase button, putting my name in his place. The customer buys the package and I get the money. Jon gets no part of that transaction. He says he is doing it because he wants to establish his name as the most well known on the internet as a nice guy.


Well, I'm sure that's partly true. But that's not the only reason he's doing it. However, when you "sell" the product the money does come to you. That much is true and correct. And the information that the customer gets is quite extraordinary: You get 18 ebooks on how to build an internet business, plus various software. This is not cutting edge stuff, but good basic knowledge. He also follows up with helpful advice in marketing.




The problem here is that most folks are put off because they cannot figure out what his ulterior motives are. Why he doesn't just come right out and tell us, I don't know, because they are really not bad.

This is what is simply known as Virual Marketing: How to get your website in fron t of as many people on the Web in the shortest amount of time.


What is happening here is simply a form of traffic generation. On the Internet, you could have the best idea since sliced bread, and a beautifully designed website to explain it, but in the very crowded marketplace that is the Internet, if you don't work out a way to get traffic to come to your website, yours will be the best kept secret in the world.




Same for convential business: unless you get people passing your shop, and coming into your shop your sales will be zero. So, what Jon is doing is having people like me find people to put his website in front of, and on the website, there are other sales opportunities for which he gets the income. For doing that, my "commission" is the $40.00 That seems perfectly fair to me.




There are so many people hawking ideas on the Internet that suggests that you can make a massive amount of income in "fifteen minutes." What nonsense! These people are not being honest with you, and if they would lie right from the start I don't think you have the foundation to ever believe anything they say. Here's the basic premise, and it applies to all forms of commerce: one party has to have a product or service that members of the public want and/or need, and they, the public must be willing to purchase said product or service from you, and to pay you good money for it.




Unless you find a niche market and can make yourself known to them, nothing is going to happen. Herein lies the rub. The e-commerce field is the most crowded of all. Everybody is trying to sell something. That there are success stories aplenty is not in dispute, but like any business it takes time to establish yourself. You also need to do the leg work; to put in the necessary preparation, planning, and to sweat the details.




One of the most successful e-commerce sites is, of course Ebay. But it didn't happen overnight for them, and its not going to go ballistic for you, at least not right away. So, if you are a Newbie and you've wondered what this is all about, dial up my website and go have a peek. I'm at


http://ewc-creativesolutions.com/ Let me know what you think of my website, and if you have any questions you can come back to me at eugene.spain@gmail.com and we'll work on it together.




Good Luck!